WDID hit the nail on the head as far as pursing. If you want to go on a hike to a national park - make the plans - take the kids. If she comes along great. I plan on taking a hike once a month, I am not hiding this from W, and will invite her (I know pursuing), but if she doesn't come, it will not ruin my day. This is part of GALing I think.
We are so close to being in the same boat. W's moods are killing some feelings toward her, her lack of any kind of connection toward me makes me resentful toward her. But then I switch up my moods and remember why I love this woman so much - so many times we put ourselves on that dang roller coaster...
Take care H4H.
CBK
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09