My friend had said we could borrow tents so that D12 could fulfil her wish for her birthday and take some friends camping. I was discussing this with D12 but this way round everyone would have to be in two tents (including me) and she thought that wouldn't be as much fun as having everyone in one big tent (and me in a little one by myself :(). So she then said she was going to ring H again and ask if she could borrow his big tent and put it up on our lawn. His objection to letting her borrow it before was b/c I had to sleep in it too! Anyway surprise, surprise he still said no.
This follows so quickly the disappointed that he gave her at the weekend when i was away. He said he could go help him do his garden and he would give her some money towards her spending money for her holiday with school (for those of you that don't know he has already refused to contribute towards the holiday). Anyway she went round there in good faith but it rained. So she came home w/o any money! She's 12 for goodness sake. Doesn't this man remember what's like to be that age?
When he came round to visit D18 last night I asked him if he could have D12 overnight at the end of the month as I have been invited out. He said he would but she wasn't here at the time. When i explained to her what I had arranged she hit the roof. Needless to say I will be turning the invitation down.
She is hurting so much, all down to a man who calls himself her father. I was so upset that I sent him a TM telling him his continued strained R with her was affecting us all. I reminded him that all she wants is for him to be her dad, all she wants is for him to say yes occassionally instead of the constant no. I pointed out that when he left she was 10 and he told her had wanted to leave for 10yrs. I said he had to try and convince her that she wasn't the reason for the breakdown in our M. I have tried so hard but it's not me she wants/needs to hear it from. I told him that seeing her so upset all the time is breaking my heart.
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Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
