Rather than be tortured anymore by all of this she might as well have some fun with the situation. I think she's finally detached enough to do this.

I know it's not exactly DBing, but I don't think Olive doesn't have anything to lose either. I think even if her H turned around tomorrow and wanted to come back she would have too much anger and resentment to be interested in making it work. In other words, she has been pushed too far and I think she'd eventually want to go.

And I think doing the things I've described might even her work out some of the resentment so maybe there would actually be a slim (very slim!) chance of reconciliation in the far off future. She won't feel like she's continuing to be a doormat. She'll get to dish out a little of what he's been dishing her.

I think it's time for a bit of "payback" so he knows exactly how it feels. He's been WAAAAAY too selfish for too long.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.