Help Me Act AS IF, Part 5

[cw68]

LMG, it's a crappy situation. I also wonder what happened, how this can happen. But it wasn't until I accepted the situation that I actually looked hard enough to see the reasons. IMO, my H gave up waaay too early and didn't fight hard enough, for sure. But there were reasons, there were causes and I was definitely involved in a lot of those. Granted, I would have chosen to deal with them differently. However, how many times in life are we forced to look at ourselves in a mirror? To really analyze every mark, every line, every move? It's painful. It can also be used to great advantage.

Take this time to look yourself over. What do you not like about yourself? Take your H completely out of the picture. What would you change? What small steps can you start today that starts the process of becoming a better LMG? It's true that we can become better people and oftentimes it's this better person that they want to come back to.

My M.O. is to become the best CW68 I can be. Hopefully my H will want this person, but if he doesn't, I'm a better person. I've grown, I've improved, I'm better off on a deep personal level regardless of my relations.

Once you start doing this, you'll never know what you'll find. In January when my H moved out, he was done with this marriage, had nothing left in the tank. Yet he hasn't seen a lawyer or anything. While he couldn't say the words that he would work on our marriage or say that in a perfect world he'd want our marriage to work, he's actions say that.

Set him free. Free yourself and then see what happens because only bad things are going to happen if you stay in this place.