If the "ex" Wants to Have "The Talk"

[No_More_Dodo]

I know that this was just another letting go for me. I think that perhaps some of us feel like if we actually become friends with our X's we are saying they did nothing wrong.

In the end, I saw a man that knew he had hurt me and knew he had messed up. But, they are just humans and I do believe they didn't do it "TO" us.

Based on your registration date, I'm thinking that you really WANT the talk, you still need validation that you're not that bad that someone would leave you. I know this feeling well. It's not wrong to feel that way, but it is why we say to focus on being the best you can be to get that good feeling about yourself back.

It's not about you. And, never say never as far as them wanting to come back, after all, that's why we start out here. Most of us will never get the opportunity or it will be too late, but just as we didn't know how we'd react when they leave, not sure we exactly know what we'd do if they tried to come back. Either way, it's irrelevant to our healing.

Take Care!

Frosty,

I guess I see things differently. I hold my friends to a high standard. This does not mean they are expected to be perfect. Yet, they are expected to have character and stick to their commitments.

I need no validation from her. I know we are all valuable in God's eyes. That is what matters. I would never want validation from someone who holds values contrary to God's word.

After what she has done, I could NEVER imagine any decent guy wanting to be married to her. Her actions scream loudly about the type of woman she is...... As it was said in Diary of a Mad Black Woman, "You can't turn no ho into a housewife!" People are who they are...

NMD