Husband says "he's done trying".....now what?

[Barbara66]

I try not to obsess about the OOW, but it's hard. I was putting together paperwork for the attorney last night and found something that really upset me. H and I scheduled a "date night" We went to a Sabres game back in Feb. We used to have season tix and we always had a good time doing this. Well, he looked as though he would rather have had a root canal and he did admit to me later that he did not enjoy it because he didn't want to be there with me. I had printed out cell and text message details and do you know everytime he got up to "go to the bathroom" at that hockey game, he sent and received 1 or 2 texts to/from HER!!! My girlfriends tell me that eventually I will grow tired of banging my head against the wall. Is there anything I can say to him (that would not be pursuing or desperate in nature) to make him see that he cannot possibly "try" with me as long as he is in contact with her? I've emailed her twice to ask her woman to woman to step away from the A, but she doesn't. As a matter of fact she emailed me and said the she will win and she will make sure that me and the kids become a distant memory to him. I haven't shown him that email because she is such a "wonderful person" I'm sure he would accuse me of somehow inventing the email. Also, he doesn't really complain about anything that I did/do....so how am I supossed to know what he is getting from her (long distance EA)that I am apparently not giving him? I just DON'T GET IT!!!
I refuse to give up on him. I love him. Everyone that knows him says that this is not the real him. Nobody understands why he is doing any of this. What's a wife to do?