I wish I would have kicked him out within a day or two of him telling me about OW and exposed him to both of our fanmilies right from the start. I have been dealing with this A for nearly 2 years but only found DB/DR in February. I did so many things wrong, but they were honest mistakes since I was dealing with my heart. I don't think it was wrong to let him know that he is loved and that the door is open at least for a while longer if he wants to rethink his choices. I have come to realize that I was the one putting the majority of family work into this marriage and so when he decided very early that he "couldn't" give up OW it was easy for him to detach and go his merry way. There may be no saving this marriage. I just don't know, but as long as there is a sliver of hope I am in the fight. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
