Farmgirl, You radiate such PMA (Positive Mental Attitude) (DB lingo), on this post.
I'm thinking there's a book written by a therapist called "Radical Acceptance." Have you read it?
Since you're open to a mindfullness approach, you might also enjoy, "Happiness is an Inside Job," by Sylvia Boorstein. It talks about three of Buddhism's eight-fold paths--Wise Effort, Wise Mindfullness, and Wise Concentration. It's written as a self-help book rather than a religious text, so it's easy, yet helpful reading
I love the arguing with reality quote.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
