The vacation discussion is difficult to have because my perception is that my W doesn't want to hear about financial realities. She wants what she wants. Perhaps I'm underestimating her willingness to be flexible.
I'm noticing that because of my perception, that I'm being avoidant around the issue. I went to a travel agent and checked into Puerto Vallarta, and Hawaii. Hawaii is expensive and would take a lot of planning to make it affordable. My W doesn't think Puerto Vallarta is a good value.
It seems the ball is in my court and I don't know what to do with it. I don't have a problem spending a week with her, so that's not the issue.
I'm trying to live within our means. I serve as a needed and unwelcome check-and balance.
She had asked me recently if I had any more ideas regarding vacation, and I told her that I didn't. The conversation ended there.
Last year she took a vacation without me. I don't know if she went alone or not (a secret). The R was in a different place then.
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