Married 24 yrs. h had affair 12 yrs ago with the same woman, really separated since 03/08 he brought us home from spring break, he lives out of state home on easter... he went back to Ga picked her up on the way back spent a week with him...he says he loves me but he cant and wont live the way we did before me to controlling making all the decisions. just an excuse because right after the affair 12 yrs. ago I tried and did meet him half way.... he treated me like crap 3 weeks ago showed up unannounced at his home he literally threw me out... drove 32 hrs.coming and going...said he wanted a divorce..no papers yet so far.. tell our friends who live close by where he lives.. he still loves me and misses his family.I am sure he still speaks with her..she says she will not move with him out of state till she sees divorce papers.I asked him the other day what his plans were are we divorcing and he said Have I gotten any papers?? and I said no.. she got UPSET with him when she found out we were there for spring break ... guess he is telling her one thing and telling me another... even after this I still wont give up hope he is going thru a mid life crisis or something.. this all started when he bought himself a Harley last summer met up with her during one of his rides.. he said he thought I did not love him anymore..of course all the blame is on me but I dont want to give up. I was on another infidelity site and they are told me to let him go because he was already gone.. but I refuse to do so..spoke with a coach last saturday and she gave me a different approach than what I have doing..praying it will turn things around we still have 13 yr.old at home she is devasted by all this..and she sees me falling apart all the time.. I am getting better. but still have good days and bad..anyone on here ever had this same affair happen to them... he said once he saw her "All the old feelings came back" he had a LTA of 2yrs. before I need some input please
