Bar is open, hugs are available (always). There will be food, but it is getting healthier! Though I might be persuaded to make a cheesecake for my friends!
I think I may have been convinced that the massage idea is a good one! I think I will make a trip to the library Friday!
OK! Well, I did the first two sections of the Yoga DVD tonight. The first is "just" stretching, not too bad. The second twenty minutes was a set of standing poses. Not really hard, taken individually, but a lot of balance involved. And long stretching, it seemed to me. I think this I will feel in the morning! I felt like I'd worked when I was done! I was surprised! It may be a few days before I do the third section, I think repeating tonight's work a couple or three times might be good before I move on!
While I was doing the stretching, S18, and then W discovered me. It was sitting in a chair, at the time S18 discovered me I had my hands out in front of me turning circles. He was amused. I think i heard him go out and ask W if she knew what I was doing. She said watching baseball, I think. S said, nope! W caught me with my feet out in from of me, rotating around, I think. She asked what I was doing. I said a yoga DVD from the library. I would have to guess that she was surprised.
WOW!!! She must be in a state of shock!!! Well done! Keep it up Jeff, I told you before, it is so evident that things can ONLY get better in your sitch, you shouldn't be hesitant at all.
Many many Hugs
K
I am so glad EVERYBODY in on your case now!!! Nowhere to hide!!
Hi Jeff! Well done on the yoga vid and how cool taht you didnt tell her about it, she just discovered you doing it? She must surely be curious, there are changes happeneoing all over with you, bit bit bit, slowly but surely. I liked that question on your last thread that someone asked about what does your W do when you are on the PC? Souds like you inhabit separate areas of the house and keep yourse;ves to yourselvs. Is this entirely her dictating that (she withdrew from you), is there any 180s in there about maybe, taking her a drink or a snack whilst shes doing homework or watching tele? Ways to introduce some intereaction back in, or thoughtfulness? I know Jack asked you to think if ways you could try reconnecting with her too on your last thread, what was it, flowers or a favourite meal, or leaving notes places.
Any thoughts !?
I'm never first (I'm too slow getting up in the mornings!) but 'll settle for second (only here though!) Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
you were wondering about the affect you relationship with your wife has on your sons. can't tell about your sit, but in all books that i read it was said, based on research, that kids fare better in intact families even if parents do not have a good r. the only exception is high conflict, abusive r, when d seems to be better for kids.
happy for you for all your new beginnings
me, h - 40+ m-20+ s, d, ss - 20+ s, ow, pa since 04.2007 h back and forth 01.2008 - 05.2008 h decided to be w/ow 05.13.2008 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1415899&page=1&fpart=1
Much better for your wife to walk in and see you doing yoga vs chatting away on the computer eh?
I know your wife was distanced before, but I am POSITIVE her seeing you chit chatting away into the wee hours of the night might keep her at a distance. You know how we women tend to make up things in our minds
Lets slowly start putting away all those boxes that are sitting in the middle of the living room. Know what I mean?
Life is not easy being alone. You can put yours back together one small task at a time.
Keep stretching!!
Hugs,
Jeanette
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Jeff! You did the yoga! I'm happy you are making so many changes in your life. Good for you! I agree with those who wrote that this might be a good time to venture toward your wife a bit. Maybe with small gestures- I seem to remember you saying that you thought her LL was acts of service (she sounds a lot like me!), so bringing her a drink while she's studying, like someone suggested, is a good idea. Or doing one of her regular duties for her, like cleaning up after dinner, unloading the dishwasher, etc. Keep up the good work, but step it up a notch.
I felt like I'd worked when I was done! I was surprised!
Yoga? what a good idea! who thought of that? Don't overdo it, let it be good for you and become a habit. I went just once a week and felt so much better! I have to make time to keep it going.
Congrats on picking yourself up and making changes! Keep your humor, the serious stuff is still ahead of you.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
