thank you! just got off the phone with h. for the FIRST time since bomb in feb we actually TALKED about R (he brought it up). I totally db'd and validated his feelings. he is def. softening. we have some old debts that we are now working together to work out and he acknowledged that perhaps it would be better to be together as a couple to work them out along with other things. now he hasn't said he's coming home, but says we'll continue talking. I did not act exited or anything, just kept validating in a loving way.
This is the first sign of hope I've has since this all began.
