OK, it's unanimous - K is a JERK! Right in there with Chuckie. I have a theory about it, though. I think they don't always call on special days (Chuck NEVER does) because they fear rejection. Because the guilt takes hold. And yes - even when they PRETEND there is no guilt, there is HUGE guilt.
Take Ashley's birthday for example. As she sat on the couch opening gifts from her grandfather, brother and I, her dad DID call (most unusual). She glanced at the call display and said "What does he want?". I told her she should answer it as he was likely calling to wish her HB. Her reply "Well, that would be a first. No, he can leave a message".
My point is that the bad behaviour creates patterns and builds walls. Then they don't always know how to act. No excuse, just my thoughts on this and a possible explanation. They know they are "Black Listed" by the rest of the family who ARE involved and sometimes just avoid getting into it.
Good thing Ry is so well loved by the rest of you. Never takes the place of a Loser Dad but hopefully he is stronger for it. I know my kids are.
