Confused no longer - Give me the strength

[Snow White]

H texted me this morning and after a few general formalities worked in that he has a meeting for his golf league at 7, gymnastics that he was picking us up to go to is from 6:30 to 7:30 in an adjacent town. People from the golf league have been calling my house every night for weeks and getting the answering machine - H was involved with running the league but the course that they play at actually colsed down this year.

Regardless it means D is going to be disappointed again. Like I said earlier it is abnormal for him to come to gym, but he told her last night he would be there. She mentioned it this morning. He could be at my house from work the earliest 5:30, we need to leave by 5:50. He said he will stop in to see her before we go and talk with her.

On a different note, I guess McDonald's really does crack the eggs on site because I had a shell in my Sausage and Egg McMuffin today, or was it a tooth?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Neecy,

As much as conflicts can happen (and your husband's is probably genuine), he needs to be VERY careful to be meeting his promises to your daughter at this delicate stage. He'd be far better off using the all-inclusive parental "We'll see" (which I use all the time, LOL) than to make promises to her that he can't keep.

I know YOU know that already, but I hope you can get that thru to him somehow.

Puppy

[GoingForward]

And I get a text at work YOU ARE SUCH A LOSER in regards to something he found on my computer.

I read this on Corey's thread! I CANNOT BELIEVE THIS! WTH is wrong with your H and mine???!!!! I'm reminded of Karen43's H as well when he bought a cake to celebrate his moving out right in front of her children!!! I am SOOOOO DISGUSTED with these idiots!!!

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!

[Snow White]

And I get a text at work YOU ARE SUCH A LOSER in regards to something he found on my computer.

I read this on Corey's thread! I CANNOT BELIEVE THIS! WTH is wrong with your H and mine???!!!!
GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!

If only I knew the answer to that question.

H thought I had signed up for an online dating site through Facebook, because I had rec'd an email saying these are people that live near you that you might be interested in meeting(system generated).

Sadly calling me a loser, geek ect. is almost like a sign of affection for my husband. Would walk in the door, hey geek what's up.

If only I knew, that a loser was what he wanted, cause that is what he found in OW - high school drop out recovering drug addict and alcoholic(although this claim of hers comes with pictures online of her at a bar).

When I got the text and it was all in CAPS I jumped to the conclusion that he was really upset about something and I knew there was nothing there for him to see, so I thought perhaps he had been on this site. He is too lazy it is all right there in front of him if he wants to know.

[Snow White]

So H did come over as soon as he got off work last night to visit with D until it was time for us to leave for gym, 15 minutes later. The thing is is she doesn't sit and visit, she says hi then runs off to do her own thing. He texted me from his golf meeting while she was at gym to see how she was doing, and then called after the meeting to see how she did and tell me about the meeting. He called at 6:45 this morning to see if I wanted coffee when he came over. Why he needed to be up so early, who knows? Was here by 7.

He mentioned he was watching the hockey game tonight at his friends(where he lives?) and I said I was going out for dinner then drinks. Of course the questions, where why, are you just going to pick up WHY ELSE WOULD YOU BE GOING OUT? I mentioned this confused me, everytime you go out with your friends are you trying to pick up girls?? No, but you are going with 2 other girls, "should I be going with guys instead?"

Then I mentioned I was going shopping tomorrow and going to meet up with a girl I met on here. Then he went a little nuts, not yelling but more acting like I was insane, and that I am going to meet up with some internet predator who is preying on women who are upset because of their relationship problems.

So then he says, when did you talk to this person I look in your email(I know) and there was nothing. I said there is today I just talked yesterday, he said that is the first time and you are meeting her? no I talk to her online. So he pulls up the email, why did she call you Neecy - how does she know that name. Geez, and to think I was just saying yesterday afternoon I would have to change it.

So after leaving for work he sends me a text saying I am not to take my daughter. I replied have you set up a baby sitter?
H - No, I thought you were smarter than this, you are being set up and you don't even see it coming. Not everyone is nice Denise.

One more thing, H asked D about gym last night and if she went on the trampoline, she said yes but Mommy left(there is only a smal 3X10 space for people to stand 90% of the time I am the only parent there). Ears pricked again, where she she go? I don't know Alyssa's daddy left too(so did everyone else's parents D)

H is having a real hard time with wanting to be off on his own but not being able to control my every move at the same time.

[kat727]

Maybe it will serve as his wake up call. I guess they just don't think we are capable of GAL without them. My H has started asking me about my book club. We have only had 2 meetings, but he asks what we are reading did I have a good time, what time did I get home. Nothing to say he suspects me of anything but just sort of surprised that I am doing something for me. Also told him I was going to watch a movie Virtually with Karen and he thought it sounded kind of neat. He even brushed my cheek as he left(This was all Tuesday night before the court hearing on Wednesday).
I hope you and Barbara still meet and have a good time tomorrow. Make a good day!!
kat
ps Happy Mother's Day to you too!

[Snow White]

We will meet - unless she changes her mind - and we WILL have a good time!

We have been invitied to my sister's annual Mother's Day breakfast that she makes for my mom and me(she has no kids) on Mother's Day. This is the first time H will be seeing my family since he moved out. I mentioned she was having it and he didn't balk at coming, he said at one point later, that will be uncomfortable.

I pointed out my mother had an affair and no one ever treated her differently, and now it is 10 years later. He said yes that lady cornered her in the bathroom of her house. I said that was one of their couple friends, where is that lady now? Oh yes, she ended up leaving her husband, and then when she wanted him back he had already moved on. No one has the right to judge.

[kat727]

So has your H found you on this site or just read the email Barbara sent? I admit I enjoy being able to vent on this site, it probably wouldn't be so bad for H to read what I have written about our situation and what other people have said.
kat

[Snow White]

To my knowledge he has not yet looked on this site. He has a habit of going through the internet history but has never looked at this, I don;t think he realizes the depth of what I have written on here, just thinks I go read articles on divorce, marriage ect.

But when he found out I was talking to her on here he got more curious. I think H would be upset at how much I talk about, or maybe the planning behind things I say or do.

[kat727]

I know I would be in a much worse place if I hadn't found this board. I know that I am not alone and have gotten some good advice, I just don't always take direction very well (I tend to follow my heart too much).
It sounds like he is showing more interest in your relationship and anything that can help that has to be a wonderful thing, I don't think he could disagree with that.
kat