If the "ex" Wants to Have "The Talk"

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Your question is "would I talk to EX in any of these scenarios?" My truthful answer is that I already have, after the D my EX would call fishing for an ego boost. She would even hint at reconciliation but I never got a sense that she was ever truely remorseful. Usually any talks would degenerate into a conversation about all my faults and a long list of reasons why everything is my fault. Last fall we were in counseling trying to improve the relationship between her and S17, (I sat in at S17 request). It was the same story, in fact you nailed it in your first post when you said,

I am certain many WASs would still attempt to pin blame on the LBS..... They would rationalize and justify their actions.... They would attempt to sugar coat things instead of taking responsibilty.....Would you even give them the time of day?

Finally the counselor said that since EX couldn't accept any responsibility and refused to respect S17's feelings there really was no hope and we quit counseling. Actually some of the things she said were so absurd it was almost entertaining but I've got better things to do.

So personally my experience has been that talking to EX is a total waste of time and the less I have to do with EX the better off I am. If you think your EX is in denial and would rationalize and sugar coat things then I wouldn't bother listening to it. This was my experience but U know your EX personality so take that into concideration.