Know this from me - you are doing everything you can do. As you know, my W had an affair like your first OM - we are both devastated and you deserve to feel like you do. I know you are trying to break away from OM, and you need to treat it like a "death" if you will. Go through the 5 stages of mourning like you are - you are getting there.
Keep up your PMA, don't let others get to you. I don't know you H, but he sounds like a great guy and you need to find that spark - and you and I both know it will be hard as you go through the period of getting him out of your thoughts. When (if) my W comes back, I do realize this, I can't change her thoughts, she has every right as a human to feel these thoughts and once she decides to come back, she will be where you are - at least that is my hope. My W didn't set out to hurt me, I get this and I am sure your H gets this as well.
Be good to yourself WDID.
CBK
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09
