To Hope or Not to Hope?

[MichelleLT]

But before the meanness, you said he was wonderful.

So, your goal is to get back to that, not to when the R started to deteriorate.

Keep your eye on the goal. It is GREAT to have well-thought-out needs and goals. Just don't lose hope in the process.

I'm sure these anniversaries are hard for him. He is dealing with them in his own way, which, like my H, seems to be internally. Don't take it personally. It's not about you, it's about him, and you can't control that. So focus on you.