I'm so sorry. As you know I've been through this recently myself. It's so heartbreaking, and I know that helpless feeling.
Do what you need to do to take care of yourself. And please tell me if there's anything I can do - being that we're pretty much neighbors I figure there's a chance I might ACTUALLY be able to do something.
((((Michelle)))
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I got a lot of that when my grandma died too, but not quite so heartless as that. It was more "I hope you can take some comfort in knowing that she lived a full life." Maybe that's closer to what your H really meant and he just said it really poorly.
((((Michelle))))
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
I got a lot of that when my grandma died too, but not quite so heartless as that. It was more "I hope you can take some comfort in knowing that she lived a full life." Maybe that's closer to what your H really meant and he just said it really poorly.
You're probably right.
And I know I shouldn't expect him to be there for me since in his mind we're not really together. But it's like there's a golden opportunity for him to be there for me and he's too wrapped up in himself to give me a single thing. I don't know, maybe he thinks words help - but he should know me better than that, PT is my LL after all.
Nik - we really need to hang out soon. It's been too long.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
