You could not teach Javier to be a man when his own parents couldn't. So don't expect him to be one. He doesn't understand this. It is not in him to man up.
He speaks the truth.
You did what you needed to do--you were strong. I like it!
I was in San Fran last weekend and saw the funniest sticker--it said "I'm not a real Bitch, I just play one in your life." I loved it! Just thought I'd share.
