Honestly, I do not know what he sees in her. I have seen pictures--she is 10 years older than I am, almost 15 years older than my H. She also lives in another state--he started his affair while we were separated due to military commitments. Unfortunately, he has continued it through email and over the cell phone. I will start a thread later tonight or tomorrow that details all of what has happened, in what was a relatively short time frame.
That's great--I would encourage you to start your own thread b/c there are a lot of great people here that will help support you and give advice. I was in shock & depression when I first found out--it's a very rough time but it does get better.
Yeah, you will find a lot of the OWs are nothing to brag about from my sitch and others I've read about here. It's not about their looks or they are better than you, just different usually (from what I've seen). The OW in my case is not some gorgeous beauty either. I also think most (maybe all?) of the OWs are dysfunctional (and I know the WAS are being dysfunctional too). The OW in my case has been married several times already, is married with kids having an affair with a married man with kids. I've been told she's neglectful of her kids (and have seen that from when I lived with my H he was usually with her or they were texting each other). She allows her daughter to drink (already at age 13), etc.
I mean if you were normal you wouldn't be married with kids having an affair with married people so I think most of them are not healthy and well-adjusted. And the statistics are something like 90% of affairs fail (I think b/c they are dysfunctional to begin with) and so I've read here they usually last no more than 6 months -2 years. Karen
