Perhaps you should talk to your L, and get the full maintenance owed you, and not this wishy-washy, what he thinks you should have cr*p!
I did try ringing her but she was unavailable and didn't ring back as requested. Might have to try again.
As for the handsome young man I'm like a love sick teenager at the moment (but that's just fantasy land ). If nothing else it is putting a permanent smile on my face!
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
As for the handsome young man I'm like a love sick teenager at the moment (but that's just fantasy land ). If nothing else it is putting a permanent smile on my face!
Even if the adultery reference in a filing does not improve your settlement, H knows that is who he is so I say have your L call him just that, honestly, in writing. You will probably feel better knowing the facts are on the record.
The sooner you get some support matters on the record the sooner you can quit worrying how he will fall short at the next turn. Taking the arbitrary negotiations out of the equation will be for the best. It will prevent the kids from becoming financial pawns.
Keep smiling. And start planning to do more of that. Remember though that you can't give H any reason to make false accusations about you in court. Wouldn't he enjoy that after he has dishonored his vows so badly?
ACJ, just a thought but I couldn,t D my husband for adultery as it had a 6mths time limit on it, so my solicitor told me and it was 3 years after he had left, so not sure about laws now in UK. I did get to write it in the sworn statement I had to make at the courts tho. I guess you will find out when you speak to your solicitor. Hope D is a little better. Wish I could feel like a love sick teenager just once more before I am too old to remember what it felt like first time around.
W2S I don't intend to give my H any reason to be smug.
Naej thanks for the link I will look at it later when I'm not so busy. I also thought that there was a 6 month time limit on D for adultery but my L keeps offering it as an option. Obviously if this is what I decide to do I will need to talk to her first. I do know that the adultery doesn't count if your spouse comes back to live with you and 6 months or more have elapsed from them coming home and then leaving again.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
My friend had said we could borrow tents so that D12 could fulfil her wish for her birthday and take some friends camping. I was discussing this with D12 but this way round everyone would have to be in two tents (including me) and she thought that wouldn't be as much fun as having everyone in one big tent (and me in a little one by myself :(). So she then said she was going to ring H again and ask if she could borrow his big tent and put it up on our lawn. His objection to letting her borrow it before was b/c I had to sleep in it too! Anyway surprise, surprise he still said no.
This follows so quickly the disappointed that he gave her at the weekend when i was away. He said he could go help him do his garden and he would give her some money towards her spending money for her holiday with school (for those of you that don't know he has already refused to contribute towards the holiday). Anyway she went round there in good faith but it rained. So she came home w/o any money! She's 12 for goodness sake. Doesn't this man remember what's like to be that age?
When he came round to visit D18 last night I asked him if he could have D12 overnight at the end of the month as I have been invited out. He said he would but she wasn't here at the time. When i explained to her what I had arranged she hit the roof. Needless to say I will be turning the invitation down.
She is hurting so much, all down to a man who calls himself her father. I was so upset that I sent him a TM telling him his continued strained R with her was affecting us all. I reminded him that all she wants is for him to be her dad, all she wants is for him to say yes occassionally instead of the constant no. I pointed out that when he left she was 10 and he told her had wanted to leave for 10yrs. I said he had to try and convince her that she wasn't the reason for the breakdown in our M. I have tried so hard but it's not me she wants/needs to hear it from. I told him that seeing her so upset all the time is breaking my heart.
There has been no reply
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I just found out from D18 that S15 had his first exam today. So I phoned him to see how it went and asked why he didn't tell me. It turns out it was actually yesterday I told him how upset I was to not know what was going on in his life. He was supposed to phone me last night but he said he forgot. I told him I had even sent a TM reminding him.
The piece de resistance............ he was too busy!
I couldn't stay on the phone after that. I just said goodbye.
I sent H a TM reminding him he was supposed to be keeping me informed of what was going on with S15 and asked why I didn't know about his exam.
If it wasn't for the fact that S15 wants to be at his dad's at the moment I'd be straight down the courthouse to get him back.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
If your son is taking a test.....it is up to your son to do his best. He is almost a grown man. In another year he will be able to go into a "pub" and drink.
Do not let his attitude affect yours, in turn you email your H with your frustrations then unwillingly you become "the nag".
Sucks.....but I'm sure it's how they view it.
Now about those tens....take each tent and face the doors towards each other!! It will be like adding a small addition on your house!!
If you need to get out...squeeze along the sides.
DO NOT ask that man for HIS tent again.
Hmph!
Be creative.
Hugs,
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
). If nothing else it is putting a permanent smile on my face!
