ms ladybug concerned...MR bug wants to move home.

[ms ladybug]

OK. H never comes over to the house except for his days off. Last night he calls at 2:45am and says he'd like to come over. OH man! First thing I had to do was get both kids out of our bed (h hates that I sometimes let them sleep with me). He was only 5min away, so I didn't have time to pick up the house or anything I would have done had I'd known ahead of time. So, I put the kids in their own rooms, and he comes over. He gives me a kiss and says that he has to dictate a report, but he'd come to bed shortly. He comes in about 30min later, and puts his arms around me. Lots of ILY, and then very good sex, very good. He wanted to cuddle as he fell asleep (seriously).
So, I'm up on cloud 9 this morning at work. I call h to wake him up for court at noon, and more ILYs. Then, he pages me. I called back and he tells me how messy the house is. He found dried play-doh and a sticky sippy cup on the kids play table. He said there wasn't a room in the house that wasn't a mess. (HIS version of mess is quite diff then most peoples. Really, the house wan't THAT bad.). I'll admit there was laudry that I'd folded in the living room, but didn't put away, and he's right about the play-doh. I didn't know about the sippy-cup, but it's believable. Had I'd known that he would come over, I would have picked up a bit more. But, what he didn't see was how spotless both bathrooms were. I'd worked on those this last weekend. He didn't see that the sink was shiny and no dishes were out. His OCD is killing me! I'll NEVER live up to his very unrealistic expectations.
Then he tells me... "I've told you before, if you need help with anything in the house, just tell me and I'll do it."
HA!! He's NEVER volunteered to do housework...EVER. How about this...if you see dried play-doh throw it away! If you see a sticky sippy-cup throw it in the sink and grab a sponge! Why would I have to TELL you to help me?!! Why call me at work (believe me this isn't the first call at work complaining about the house)...don't waste your time calling me, I can't come home and fix it...just do it! And now, when he's not even living at home, he made it clear that I'm to do everything. (not that I didn't do everything before, but now I mow the lawn).
He's always been willing to help?? Did I somehow miss that all these years? Where did that come from.

So, anyway, I'm irritated. If I'd known he was coming over, I would have picked up the house more.