Speaking as someone who's been at this for 3 years, the only thing I wish I would've done differently was NOT give my H all the time he needed to come out of the fog. I did not push him to work on the R with me sooner rather than 3 years later! Perhaps if I had put my foot down long ago, there might have been a better chance that my M would've survived. But....*shrugs*....who knows.
3 years is too long, people change over time, and unfortunately sometimes, it's not always for the better.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
