Thanks for the pep talk, I was going to write a long post in response but it would be too hard for me to defend the indefensible. Needless to say as well as things have been going lately I do have to fight the voices in my head telling me to do the opposite to what is considered good DB especially when W behaves in a manner which shows no consideration to our sitch. But hey onwards with the good work
Oh this is one point I do want to respond to.
Originally Posted By: Sandi2
I see the biggest problem is the communication. I believe you both want the same thing.....to make the M work. But the communication is getting crossed up. I think if you could find some type of mentor type person that could teach you both how to "talk" to each other and get what each other is really saying.....your M problems would almost solve itself!
It's think its blindingly obvious that this is our problem, but W doesn't want to talk, that is to me or any secondary party. Anything which resembles formal or R talks then W clams up. Hence my frustration, but I've found pushing it does me no good Anyway I've got quotes from Rob and FG ringing around in my head so I do know the way forward, I do know the drill.
On a positive note D6 and I have decorated our big kitchen birthday style for W (the kitchen is W's sanctuary, ballons, banners and streamers around the wall. The breakfast bar is decked you with, party popper, confetti and W cards and presents are laid out, with champagne glasses ready for her when she gets home. I'll get home after her so I think it will be a nice surprise for her when she gets in. (Remember I always used to ruin her birthday, not any more )
If she's been a good girl I'll get the massage oils out again.
