Karen, I can honestly say that I believe most of these changes are for your ownself and you have the true concept of PMA and GAL. I think he is seeing that. You don't have to point anything out, he is fully aware of it, but he is still so confused. I think the MLC pulls them in so many directions that they themselves don't even know what they want!!! Just continue what you are doing, no matter what happens you will come out on top!
Yes, Yoyo, I admit when I started DBing I was doing it I think mostly to prevent divorce, but at some point in the process I kind of changed the focus to making the changes for myself and H can come back to our family or not and I decided I will be OK. It's probably a better focus to have but I def. didn't have it in the beginning, and maybe you have to work at it a while before you can do that.
Something I was thinking is maybe H is starting to finally count on the changes I've made (he's said several times he's noticed my changes but of course a blind & deaf person would have noticed them!) but finally is starting to believe they are permanent b/c it has been about 5 months now and I keep improving (house-cleaning, independence, happy, etc.). I'm sure at first he thought in a month or 2 she'll go back to being depressed, but maybe now he is finally seeing that I don't intend to do that!
Plus, I have to think after H has told everyone he knows, friends and family, that we are divorcing, it must be very difficult to change course when you are 100% intent on divorcing someone. I am wondering if he at least has started having some doubts now? Or another less positive thought I'm having is b/c I've been pulling back a little the last week or two, is H being friendly b/c he thinks I am over him & want the divorce so he is happy about that??? Karen
It's probably a better focus to have but I def. didn't have it in the beginning, and maybe you have to work at it a while before you can do that. 
Karen
