The decision is made

[BeingMe]

Hi ACJ!!!!! I have been away for the last couple of weeks, and just caught up on your sitch! Partying with a handsome, young man can only do good for one's bruised ego, IMO! I say, party on! You are still young, and have so much to offer the right guy.

As for your H .... good grief, he needs to grow up and be a man and father, for real! Perhaps you should talk to your L, and get the full maintenance owed you, and not this wishy-washy, what he thinks you should have cr*p! I see the hand of OW in this (I am sure she would love to see you and the kids disappear into the horizon, taking with you as little as possible .... don't give her that .... you are still his W, and he still has responsibilities as a father which he knowlingly took on ... you didn't force him to marry you and have a family, and now he wants out, but he still has to pay the piper). Perhaps, being tough might shake his tree some, and wake him up. Being nice and understanding sure hasn't.

Ugh! Not sure if my advice is sound ... I was very tough on my H, and didn't beat about the bush one bit. But, he never left our home, so I never had to deal with a physical separation, or OW being in my kids' lives. What I did, worked, but who knows what will, and what won't. And now, three years down the line, I still don't know if I should've even fought for my M. Eek!!!!

Anyway, I know that things work out the way they should, especially if we do all we can to do the right thing. Here's a quote that I found helped me along the way: “Sometimes we stare so long at a door that is closing that we see too late the one that is open.” - Alexander Graham Bell

I suddenly thought s*d H I'm going to D him for adultery

That is one heck of a corner to turn, and I think you should too. Then maybe he can see things for what they truly are. You go, Girl!!!!!!

Take care.