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Yeah, I am very sure of things. I don't mean that to sound boastful but yes, I am sure.


The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
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H texted me and later called me lastnight.

We might meet after I get off work this afternoon depending on his schedule.

He said he cannot wait until he comes home. I swear these guys are paralyzed temporarily!!

In all, a positive conversation.


The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
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That's really great Steelers. I'm so glad that he is starting to open up some more. I know you already know you need to take it slowly and protect yourself from further pain and hurt.


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bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!

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He's been gone, what, a total of two years in all? There is no more hurt to go around.

He just has to get thru this journey and it is no longer about another person being in the picture, it is all about him now.

I am past the hurt and the pain.

I read with a close friend lastnight the First Book of Peter in the Bible and it talks about this suffering as being good. It was inspiring.


The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
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I'm going to have to read that too. I'm working my way slowly through Proverbs.


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bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!

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talk about cycling!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! just lastnight he said he was looking forward to moving back home but did not give a timeframe.


while i was in school he sent me a text which said:

dont come to my office today.

i cant do this. it is messing up my mind


i texted back and asked:

does this mean you want nothing to do with me, dont love me

and he said:

that's not what i meant

then i said

i am praying for you

and he texted:

thank you


The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19
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Good grief! That is completely nuts! And he won't go the therapy? How sad for him and you and the kids. He really needs help.


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PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
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At least he was able to see that he's confused though. To me, that's a step at least. SF, I admire your strength!

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He does not go because he knows exactly what they will say. And he says they will say what I say which is probably true.

Enough of that.

Yes, this is spinning and cycling.

At first I was upset but a friend of his told me not to take it personally, this is about him and his conscience and not about adultery any longer.

I am leaving it alone.

This proves to me that God is at work and working on his brain big time. So in reality, what he is thinking/feeling is actually a good thing. If he did not have a conscience, he would not think anything of it.

Make sense?


The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19
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In the last two months, I have heard him say he "cant do this as it messes up his mind many times!"


The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19
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