I don't think she quite falls into the "good Christian girls don't" thing. When we first married, she was a bit more adventureous(?). Remember, she had much more experience and knew what she liked. She was a real wild child as a teenager and young adult. Over time, her repertoire has reduced to one or two things and I can't remember the last time oral was an option either way. She does go out of her way to make me feel that my level of desire is abnormal. She delights in telling stories of her friends who are on the weekly, monthly or quarterly plan and how they are "normal". She has never forgiven me for telling her about my friends for whom twice a day is normal! I am checking my own motivation for counseling. It is fairly low and with money the way it is, I just can't see doing it. Right now I have continued to work on a civil friendship and that is going well. Is is possible to continue as such for 11 more years? I don't know. I have been focusing on the parts of her that I don't find attractive and this has reduced my need for her. Maybe if I just think of her like a sister, it will be all good!
