You need to figure out what is so darn appealing about this OP. Do they have a great sex life whereas yours has been paltry? Does s/he flatter your spouse a great deal, building his/her ego? Is s/he spontaneous, willing to do things at the spur of the moment, when you like to have thigns planned months in advance? Is s/he a good listener, always interested in what your spouse needs to say?
You need to find out what need your spouse is fulfilling by spending time with this person so that you can do a better job fulfilling that need yourself. You need to make some changes. Don’t tell your spouse that you are going to change or that things will be different, just start acting differently.”
Alright, this is all well and good, but what if your spouse keeps saying that there were no problems with you, he just never loved you--unfortunately he did not know it UNTIL he met the OP? He has moved out and is arranging clandestine trips with her--lying to our kids in the process. I am at my wit's end on what to do to protect my kids from his flights of fantasy--cause that is exactly what this seems like.
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
