And so it begins....

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Thanks BigHands, I'll meet you in the middle with a Jameson.

I get what you're saying. This is all moving so fast for me. In Texas there is a mandatory 60 day waiting period after filing. The W filed last February, kept it secret until the statute ran and then presented me all at once with the original petition, final decree, and the waivers of service and other documents necessary to expedite the D. This was a shock to me. My mantra had become: "Every day is just another day she hasn't filed."

I am entitled to citation and can force this if I want to. Having said that, I don't know that I would benefit by intentionally dragging this out. It would just give her another 60 days to resent me for making it hard on her. I feel my only card to play is just give her what she wants, let our M die, and hope that she will come to miss me. Until now, I have been doing the strange and beautiful dance of the committed Db'er. Now, I will no longer be emotionally and financially available to her. "Going dark" if you will.

Dark indeed.