Thanks Liz, Thank you for your thoughts--I don't think I can be detached for such a long period of time (i.e. on a trip together), especially when the wounds are still so fresh.
I am afraid that we would fall back into old habits--he gets snipey and irritable and I take it way too personally and overreact and want to fix it (make up and be happy) RIGHT NOW!
Any suggestions for good resources for "piecing?" I was able to be the divorce-busting thing pretty well, and it obviously got good results, but the books seem pretty light on the part about when they come back...I have worked hard on myself and gotten a long way, but does there come a time when you can expect that honestly saying "Ouch" will elicit some gentleness?
I have such a longing for tenderness, not just being treated as the fall-back plan, but I am afraid to say so directly...
