Just peeking out from between the shoes to mention what a great person you continue to be during all this. You could not teach Javier to be a man when his own parents couldn't. So don't expect him to be one. He doesn't understand this. It is not in him to man up.
You won't be able to teach him how to now. Neither will your L.
What your L will do, is demonstrate to him the power of the written agreement. That document has empowered you to distance yourself from the day to day bickering and emotional exchanges that are so tempting right now.
You have tried to show some respect to his "friend" who probably doesn't deserve it. Don't expect him to show you the respect of returning the favor. He will only be nice when he thinks it is buying him some distance from the written agreement.
He is a bad puppy and will remain a bad puppy until he experiences adequate professional training. That is what the L is for. Until you see that the training has taken and that those services are no longer needed, let the L continue to rub his nose in his mistakes. In this case, it is the law!
Take care of your cute self now and have a great hump day!
