Sorry to see you in this stich...I am maybe not the person to advise you...my h at one point when he left (we are back together now)...I thought he was going through a mid-life; it was a EA, but maybe a bit of mid-life too...he did get depressed, but then, I do now believe it was because he was rejected by OW.. But I can relate to the "meaness"..I found personally that when he was acting like that...I just couldn't be around him, and if I had to be..I would detach..and I have also found that detaching is a on going process..even when our WAS comes back into the home and M...someone very wise said this: believe nothing they say...and half of what they do...so then with that, I guess I would say this...can you go with him and be detached from what he says and does? And if you can, if I were you, I would see your friends..DBinging is about GAL, and we are to always keep that up...no matter if they come back or not...
