he's now gone and getting apartment

[Trixi]

My H moved out to an apartment back in August- of course, we both knew he would be back at some point since he was paying the mortgage and I can't afford it on my own. After 4 months, he said he wanted to move back to the house and have me 'do what I needed to do' to find a place. I am now in a rental house.

Having said that- just because someone gets an apartment, it doesn't mean it's all over.
My H is VERY happy at my (newly found) independence. I have made my rental look like ME. I took some adult ed classes (just fun stuff.)
Believe me, I know how scary it is. I have been with my H for a total of 13 years; we hadn't slept apart (for an extended period of time) for 12 years when he first moved out. It sucked.

The whole point of DR/DB is to find out who YOU are- and if the WAS comes back, all the better. Time to tip the power scales to a more balanced level. You can do this!