Changing myself for myself

[MichelleLT]

OW are like an addiction. It is VERY VERY hard for most WASs to leave the OP. Most break up and get back together several times before they get sick of the immature drama and pull their heads out of their a$$es.

Just know that it is not uncommon, but I think your boundaries are a good idea.

You are doing great. Your requests are not unreasonable, just remember to back them up with words. Same with him, his actions will matter, not his words.

Stay focused on the positives. He is reconsidering, it just might be a long process. Hang in there.

re the snooping. It probably won't help anything, will only make you angry, and if he finds out will piss him off. Most recommend not doing it at all. I know it helped my peace of mind when I stopped because I wasn't letting OW control my life anymore.