Husband says "he's done trying".....now what?

[Barbara66]

okay, we had a joint counseling session together yesterday after six weeks of individual counseling. H states that he is at the same place he was 6 wks ago. He still has contact with OOW and wants freedom to "grow that R." I am strongly opposed to D and want to continue the fight. H stated he wants a D. I said "no!" My girlfriends came over to share in my sadness last night and all say that I need to initiate a Separation Agreement. My lawyer told me to keep fighting for the M. H has no legal cause and courts probably will not grant him D because I can/will contest it. He is not paying me anything, but he is paying all household bills. Right now, that's probably more than what he'd have to pay in CS. Also, in NYS, after one year a separation agreement gives him legal cause, so I am hesitant to proceed with that. I love this man with all my heart, even though he has ripped out my heart and stepped on it. I know that he has to want to come back, but DBing just doesn't seem to be working. I'm trying to go completely dark starting today, but it is sheer torture. He called me once this morning and I sent it to voicemail. He was calling to tell me that he was stopping at the house to pick up some checks because he needed to pay some bills. I didn't return the call and I am changing the locks tonight. I go see my attorney tomorrow morning...I'll take any advice you can offer..PLEASE!!!