I will be glad to take full credit, Jeff. Sometimes it is good to laugh at things.
I posted on your thread that I see what you are planning in your sitch and I agree with you.
CBK, my Spurs are getting old like me. I will remain hopeful just as I am for my WW. Until I hear the words, "I want to work this out" or she gives me my ring back, I try not to read into anything she does. This situation is the same as it was almost a year ago. I have learned a lot on this site and have been given great advise, so I am the one that has changed.
wdid, I know that even though WW has told me to move on and has spewed out some things to the affect of her not wanting me to love her like I do. That I'll only get hurt, waiting for her is not fair to me, blah, blah. I may be on the right track, but it sure don't feel like it. At times, I feel so desperate for intimacy. I may try things soon. Nothing crazy. And not for at least a couple weeks away from any R talk. Things like giving a kiss on the cheek goodbye or when getting home. Sleeping with my hand on her side. A little more touches here and there when I talk to her, or when passing by her. Not yet, mind you. Hopefully soon.
I know the kids getting more closer to me everyday is getting to her. I'm just not sure if it is good or bad to her in her mind. WW calls me while I at work. She is calling from work and she tells me that she didn't make it to the meeting. We talk a little and she has to finish with a client. I tell her that I may work a little later than usual, but not real late. On the way home, I call WW to find out if she wants me to start dinner, because she mentioned something she wanted to cook. I want her to give me the ok first, because she always accuses me of taking over in the kitchen. I have worked on that. I just want to help. No answer. Call again, no answer. Maybe her phone is on vibrate and she forget to reset the ringer after work. Maybe she is on the phone with OM. WW calls about 20 minutes later. She talks about traffic and I ask her about what she wants for dinner. She changed her mind and decided on homemade hamburgers because of D's. They wanted Micky D's, but she told them she would make some better. I tell her that I'll get started on french fries, homemade of course. We talk about gas and I tell her that she might as well get gas now. Inside of gas station, WW asks me if I need cigarettes. I tell her no, I am quitting and I'll see her at home. At home, I greet WW and she responds. She starts to help D6 with some writing. She did that quick. No chance for me to help. D6 mentions the email that I sent to teacher. I say yes, I just wanted to see how you are doing (I told teacher that I know she knows our sitch because of the last teacher conference she had with WW I saw notes that mention "parents seperating") and to tell her to email me on her progress and that I am working on keeping the family unit together. I didn't say this last part to D6, of course, but I could see WW looking surprised that I contacted teacher. After dinner and before kids bed, D11 decides that she wants to hear the "Charlie Brown Christmas" music cd, then we are both on the piano trying to learn the one song that I know everyone here knows. We are having fun and actually doing pretty good. I know that WW is just taking it all in.
Kids in bed, I lay on the bed and start going through a bag of old family photos. WW shows me a shirt she got from work. I laugh at some photos and show to WW. WW lays down on bed and says time for bed. She is out like a light. I finish looking through and take several out that I will keep for myself. I see shirt back in living room on top of her purse. She should have hung it up. She trying to set me up? Not going to fall for it if she is.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."