You are all right. Once I stepped away, I saw it all for what it was as actions speak louder than words. Back when I was hopeful over this situation, I would have never thought that we would become such different people. He is still able to reel me in (I have to work on this) but I have also gotten strong enough to stop before I react.
Oh Sweetie,
We all know how that feels. We've all been hopeful in wanting to believe that somehow our situations were different. That somehow we would be in that group of the "lucky ones" whose marriage would get back on track. Actually it is a blessing because it gives us something to how onto while we're getting over the shock to our system. The good thing is that you will know without a doubt that you did everything you could to try and save your marriage.
For me that hardest thing to accept was that this person that I thought I knew so well was now a virtual stranger to me and I didn't know hime at all and perhaps maybe I never really knew him. So I understand that as well.
None of this is easy and nobody wantrs to find themselves in this position, but the sooner we accept it the better it is for us.
I'm happy that you're sounding stronger. All you can do is to keep plugging along and to concentrate on the things that make you happy!
