Back from my long weekend. Where i got to bite and lick some peeps, and pee with laughter.
Sooo, while i was away. The X. ick.
Had that Communion of Susan's kid. Where i picked out a great outfit for my kids to wear. I also told my kids to behave themselves, and listen to their dad. Yada yada.
Saturday afternoon. The X's uncle has a bday party for his grandaughters. They turned 1. My kids went with the X,
AND
with Susan and her kids.
The first time in 2 years, that she has met any family. Um it stung.
And, my kids were upset about it. Xmil and Xsil, didn't go to that party.
Soooo
My kids tell me that they spent the night at Susan's house.
That was it.
It is in my divorce decree that my kids don't spend the night there.
They can only spend the night with Javier at his moms house, or spend the night with him, when he has his own apt, where the kids have their own bedrooms.
So they spent the night at that trash's house, and the X slept with my Daughter in one of her boys room
And my Son, slept on the FLOOR.
He had to repeat it to me 3 times, b/c i thought he was lying.
I said and where did her kids sleep? And my son said her kids slept on the sofa, and Susan slept on her bed.
Let me tell you something. I have a small house, and whenever the X's family came to visit, I would give up my bed for his family.
I would give up my bed for Susan's kids, if some crazy instance had those kids here.
The fact that X and trash allowed my kid to sleep on the floor.
Makes me want to set Javier on fire and let her watch. sigh.
Don't worry, I have been praying to God.
I haven't said a word
I have bit my tongue so hard, i taste the blood already trust me.
My son looked at me in the face and told me he felt horrible sleeping on the floor.
I really can't keep saying it b/c I am going to be in jail.
And i know that to some it does not sound like a big deal, maybe. And Hey, one night of sleeping on the floor never killed anyone.
And you are totally right, and good for you.
But these are MY kids. The rules change.
Soo, I called my L, and told her the deal. She said to me, I love it. I love nailing him.
told my parents the deal.
Susan will get a letter from my L.
I will not lower myself to her, and give her the satisfaction of seeing me pissed off.
He violated the divorce decree, and it shall not be swept under the rug.
He was sweet as sugar to me too, making sure I was having a nice trip, and that the kids missed me, and make sure you bring me something Lis.
He drove me to the airport on the day of our wedding non anniversary.
He probably planned this out all along.
I am done, being nice to him. He can speak to me, on a need only basis.
Other than that, he is nothing.
I gave in inch and he took a yard.
Done.
I am ok now, i cried it out last night, and this morning.
I feel good now.
My kids are home and safe with me.
I hate to come on here and complain, ick.
back to work today, and boy was I busy, so that was good.
Drfrankyburger, was waiting for me this morning with my favortie coffee. sigh.
So all is good.
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Ohhhh Lissie!!!! I would be spittn bullets! Good for you for getting in touch w/ your L! thats the way to handle it.
There really is no need for him to speak to you apart from kid stuff, he lost that privledge when he became a jerk!!
Why these people think they can thumb their nose at the laws that were laid down, I have no clue! Mine tried a few stunts himself, it was the last time he tried it!!
((( Lissie ))) you done good girl!!!
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I am so in awe of you. I don't know that when it came to my kids I would have kept my mouth shut but the way you handled it was absolutely the right way. What are these ex's thinking? Isn't it enough that our kids have to mourn for their family as they knew it without throwing them into an uncomfortable situation that they have no control over? He's their Father for goodness sake but he sure isn't acting like one.
Honey you're lawyer will handle things according to the decree. He shouldn't have signed it if he wasn't going to abide by it, but he did and there are consequences. I'm dorry that you're going through this and I wish there were more I could do.
hey Liss))))))))))) sorry you had a rough time, grrr! it's like dealing with a rabid dog, you knew know what he is going to do, not many brain cells left up in their old head. Glad you let your L handle it, that is the best way, you are way above that other person. You come here and complain ALL you want, that's why we are here toots))))))
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
what an a$$. I am so sick of these Xs and their stupid games. Selfish whores. Sorry, that was pretty venemous of me.
Anyway, love how you handle yourself and remind me to NEVER piss you off when i'm in a 3-state radius of the garden state!! Hope it's a great wednesday!!
