But don't bank your decisions on it. Above of all else put faith in yourself and the faith in knowing that YOU are going succeed. Let him fail...ensure you succeed.
I get about the in-laws. I'm there with you and the friends too...you're well aware of my current sitch.
My advice...accept it. Just allow it. I know it hurts, don't fight that hurt either..but don't dwell on it. Don't list all the reasons why it hurts and all the reasons why it's wrong and all the reasons why someone or something should make it right. Just accept it. I'm telling you the more you can look at this stuff and just shrug your shoulders...the better you will be. What good is all the other stuff getting you? This doesn't mean getting over it...that will only come with time. It doesn't mean not loving him. It doesn't mean that you think what he's doing is right. It just means your accepting it the way it is...because you can't change it. I know I keep saying it and I'm sorry if I'm repeating it again and again... I know you want to...I know you can. You're getting closer every day. When you make your happy list...do yourself a favour and take a close look at the things on that list. What are you doing to use those things to build more happy things? How are you dwelling on those happy things to create more of that in your life? Don't just make a list and go back to the misery...dwell on that list! J~ J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
