It's funny hope2workitout because even though H has NOT made any attempts to get friendly or anything with me, I sense that he is going to start to feel our connection again. In the past, when I started to sense this...that's when I would tend to reach out to him only to get shut down. This time my head is on straight. I'm continuing to move in the other direction, no more reaching out. See...I'm finally DB'ing.
My friend who held the party for her husband on Sat called me today. The friends who feel bad about not inviting me to the party. Apparently this whole business has become the talk of the town. Friends are shocked and mad about H and his disrespect for everyone as well as his lack of class in bringer OW to the party. On top of it everyone is amazed about what OW was all about, especially that was hanging off all the men there and at one point I heard they MAKING OUT IN THE GARAGE! What are they 16? I mean this woman must by my complete opposite. I don't get it. So my friend asked if she could come over tomorrow night to talk. The kids are with H so it will be good to talk over a bottle of wine. I've decided that I'm going to be non-judgemental, but definitely honest with her about the whole thing. I think that quite a few people are disappointed that they allowed OW to be there and didn't invite me and they are really feeling bad about it. And so they should. But I don't want to dwell on it or hold it against them either. They too are frickin' confused and uncomfortabel about H right now and are only just starting to see the holes in his stories. A few people have commented to me about how sad it is because it's like watching a train wreck. I only hope that they and everyone else starts to be honest too...with H. If they really want to support him, then be his friend and tell him what an @$$ he's being. Real friends don't just blindly support people making poor decisions...they're honest with them and give them a shake if necessary. That's a good friend. IMO anyway. So we'll see how it goes. I'm looking forward to seeing and hanging out with her, I miss her a lot. My papers went to H's lawyer today and H told me he has an appmt to see his L on Thurs. I have an appmt with my agent to list my house on Monday. Balls are rolling! J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
