Your highest priority is to define your duty to your kids. Not just so that they are spared pain today - but so that they have the proper upbringing to make the right decisions tomorrow.
Once you define your duty. Then use meditation and yoga to enable you to perform that duty.
In this case, I think this also helps to define my Path with Heart. I have been in a state of paralysis since I found out how unfair the legal situation is. Of course, I understand that this is a knife that cuts both ways and if I were the one cheating on my SAHM W, then the legal structure would probably be in the best interests of the kids! Just don't understand why breaking your vows in such a open and unabashed way is not even considered by the law!
In any case, my Path with Heart has to be the path that puts the kids in the best possible sitch and preserves (or restores) my dignity. It is also important that they learn that it is not OK to treat others like dirt, to abandon your promises, to be a self-centered %#!&$# AND that you don't have to take it like a door mat. I like your idea AG about converting as many assets into trust/education funds. This accomplishes the primary goal of looking out for the kids and also assures that W does not have the ability to squander these hard earned assets. This won't be particularly easy since house equity and retirements funds are not so easy to convert, but obviously cash and other liquifiable assets can easily be converted. Brilliant, can't believe I did not think of it. I guess it's time to get back to the lawyer and start on this right away.
Funny, but I feel much better having a goal on this front again. My last one did not seem to work out very well"
Originally Posted By: SD's Goal
5. Bring this chapter of my life to a close by... a. W to accept D is the right thing to do by March. b. Get into D mediation by end of spring. c. W financially independent by August.
Not even sure if a. and b. are in the kids best interest until I can get the financial sitch in order. c. would be oh so nice for me, but obviously an inconvience to her lifestyle!
Thanks again, SD
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
