Hi all. I have spent the last 4 months over in the Separated forum. I realize my sitch was much, much shorter than most, and I have tremendous respect for those who are into this for such long periods.
Near the end of our separation, I had reached the point where I was OK with it, and had decided to move forward with my life, for me. I had 'released' my W from feeling any obligation to return home, and she had released me; in fact she told me to please start dating other women!
However, for whatever reason, a lot of thoughts and perceptions suddenly gelled for her one afternoon, and she suddenly asked herself "what the hell am I doing?"
That evening, she called me, crying, and asked if she could come home.
That was a week and a half ago, and we are so happy, and so incredibly great together. No rose-coloured glasses here, just reality - we are talking about this, not all the time, just casually as it comes up.
We are giving each other space, and we are enjoying our new marriage to the utmost.
She had fallen out of love with me, told me in plain English that "she did not see me in her future".
She says "I Love You" to me every day now, and we are definitely in each other's futures.
I am here to say, that even when it looks bleak, it can still work out for the best.
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
