RTL, In the beginning nearly all our friends believed my H was running away from a controlling Kalni. Through the months that have passed, there isn't even ONE that didn't come to me and say "he has issues, you were just being blamed as an excuse". People know, sooner or later they figure it out. Don't worry. You'll have plenty of chances to shine to the people you really care about their opinion.
I can't help it and repeat once more that you are becoming an amazing person (unless you lie to us). I am sure people in RL see it too.