Hugs and kisses to you all... I am soooo thankful for this place.
You are all right. Once I stepped away, I saw it all for what it was as actions speak louder than words. Back when I was hopeful over this situation, I would have never thought that we would become such different people. He is still able to reel me in (I have to work on this) but I have also gotten strong enough to stop before I react.
Cat- No doubt, it was a rat. The intention was to "bait and switch" me so that I give it up. Thank God that I did not fall for it. Close but no cigar.
Iwondertoo- It is soo funny that you caught that right off of the bat. I want out of this, I just can't seem to climb the wall to "escape".
Lissie- He will never do it so i decided that on our next shopping trip, they will take 2-3 days worth of clothes over there. I am doing it so as to prevent myself from being inconvenienced further by having to interact with him. One less thing but I have no doubts in my mind that he will look for something else to hound me about. Peace of mind, that is just it and I sooooo desperately need it for myself. I will be glad when this is over, the hanging on is just UNBAREABLE.
Always- Nothing changed. I just let him get in my head. He has done it many times over, in his quest to get some. Thank you for caring.
You are all right. Once I stepped away, I saw it all for what it was as actions speak louder than words. Back when I was hopeful over this situation, I would have never thought that we would become such different people. He is still able to reel me in (I have to work on this) but I have also gotten strong enough to stop before I react.
Oh Sweetie,
We all know how that feels. We've all been hopeful in wanting to believe that somehow our situations were different. That somehow we would be in that group of the "lucky ones" whose marriage would get back on track. Actually it is a blessing because it gives us something to how onto while we're getting over the shock to our system. The good thing is that you will know without a doubt that you did everything you could to try and save your marriage.
For me that hardest thing to accept was that this person that I thought I knew so well was now a virtual stranger to me and I didn't know hime at all and perhaps maybe I never really knew him. So I understand that as well.
None of this is easy and nobody wantrs to find themselves in this position, but the sooner we accept it the better it is for us.
I'm happy that you're sounding stronger. All you can do is to keep plugging along and to concentrate on the things that make you happy!
This is an NEVERENDING story. No one from that side showed. The case has been dismissed.
I really dont know what to do. What do you do with a person that seemingly does not want to be married and seemingly does not want to be divorced ?
What do I do now?
EH,
I am not sure of your exact sitch.... However, I had a female friend in the same place.... H did not want to D because H did not want to sell homes and split assets..... It was believed H was buying time to hide assets... I would suggest getting to the bottom of it ASAP.....
NMD
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"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
