Interesting that you find sex to be so unimportant, just like many of the wives of the men on these boards. I can tell you from a HD man's perspective that sex is for many men, their #1 Emotion. Think of sex as being integrated into every part of his personality. You husbands reactions to you are CLASSIC responses to not enough sex. Every time you reject him sexually, you reject him! Both of you need to realize that your needs in marriage are COMPLETELY different, and this is normal. You want communication, sharing, time together. He of course wants "Sexual Fullfillment". This again is NORMAL. You both need to have your needs met. But right now you need to concetrate on his needs if you want him back. As Dr. Laura says, there are three things you can do to win a man, feed him, sex him, and admire him. Thats it! I am guesing that he wandered specifically for sex. He wants to have a LOVER. That COULD be you. You need to have sex with a frequency that comes close to what he wants, and most HD men watn sex at least 3 times a week, OR MORE! He probably wants lots of VARIETY. He probably wants ORAL sex from you, many LD women HATE this. He wants flirting, kissing, touching, playfullness, and at all time of the day and in public. He wants a women that has no sexual hangups. And most important, he wants a women that WANTS sex. Men love women that initiate, A LOT! They want women that DESIRE to make love to them!
Remember, Men do not need sex. THey need "Sexual Fullfillment". The difference, it's all in your desire and attitude. So you need to figure out how to LOVE sex, and then how to keep it in your thoughts more or less 24/7. Unfortunately, this is VERY hard to do for some women. You husband is bathed 24/7 in the ONLY known aphrodisiac there is, testosterone. IT controls EVERY thing about him and his personality, that is just the way it is.
Once you win him back, you must keep it up. But then you need to address HIS role in the mess and expect him to improve the way he interacts with you. Otherwise, you both will fall back into the routines you were before.
Originally posted by CeMar.... I thought I would post it here to keep it fresh in my mind. God Bless....
