Trying really hard to detatch more and more so that when H decides not to come home again, I won't get myself so worked up and upset.
You have to do that for YOUR sanity. Detaching is all about you. I have said this before but I know it is hard in the same house. When H left, even though I hated it, I felt such a relief. I wasn't obsessed with his every move.
Aren't there certain nights he is staying out so late? If so, then you can be prepared for this. Maybe you can schedule your hotel "vacation" on one of those nights.
