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[kolle]

Puppy and Lovelrn

All I can say is that in all the time I snooped on her things only got worse, so there is no point for me in doing "more of the same".

I decided in high school after a failed romance that I would never sacrifice my dignity again. But guess what, when my W had her OA I raged and regressed to such a point that there was little dignity left.

I think it all depends on how you define your dignity. If you are raped, you may think that your dignity is violated. But you do not need to see it that way. It is actually the perpetrator who destroyed his own dignity.

NOBODY can take away my dignity and integrity unless I allow it.

I have decided that to regain my dignity I need to love unconditionally, not rage and regress. And that does not depend on what my W does or does not do.

When my W oversteps my boundaries she destroys her own dignity. How I react to it defines mine. Yes it may mean that I take some "punitive action", it may also mean that in a certain situation I do exactly the opposite, or in fact, nothing. Turn the other cheek, walk the extra mile, give your overcoat and your under coat too. In today's culture it means sacrificing your dignity. In God's eyes it may be the only dignified thing to do.

This does not mean I condone or deny what the other she does, I still reject and condemn it in the strongest terms, and she should know it.

I just choose to react to it in a certain way.