Help Me Act AS IF, Part 5

[fandgmom]

I think your H is "stuck", for lack of a better word. Something has to change in your sitch, it cannot just continue like it is. You guys are getting nowhere fast. Only making your H more adamant about his decision.

Here are my words of advice - and they are only my opinion on how I see things - so just take what you will from them and please do not take anything personally. Again, it is only my point of view. I am not an expert but I felt that I had to share my feelings with you.

I feel that if you want any chance at reconciling with your H, you guys need to separate. Do you have to agree with his reasons for wanting to move out? No, but you do need to accept it and let him go. Right now it seems that you are mentally forcing him to stay and you are constantly, constantly hurting yourself in the process. Please stop making the excuse about what is best for the kids! As I said, if you want any chance at making things work, you need to LET GO. Remember the saying "if you love something, set it free, if it comes back, it is yours"

Whatever is meant to be, will be. You need to start viewing your entire situation in that manner. I think with your H staying at home, it is only making your situation worse, for both of you. You keep putting off the inevitable, in the hopes of what?

You have to do something different because what you have been doing for the past however many months is NOT working.

Your H needs to see a strong woman in you. He needs to see a different side of you than he is used to seeing. Gosh, I am not saying this doesn't hurt and that you should be made of steel, trust me, I know, I've been there. But you need to show him some confidence and strength and that you CAN live without him.

((HUGS))