But I disagree that he's taking steps towards me. It's within his comfort zone to do things like that. Lately he sometimes calls after watching a show he knows I'm watching (like Boston Legal) and we'll laugh about scenes then make small talk for a few minutes before hanging up. This is as far as he will ever go, catfan.
Amy you once told me, chided me actually, that we first have to be friends again and I shouldn't get upset with little behaviors like this. Sure part of DBing is to be strong and one way is to not engage in idle chit chat. But that's only if you are LRTing. Accept these little nuggets from time to time but not always. You have to appear to be having your own life and not waiting with baited breath. Sorry, no, you must have your own life!
Sure this behavior is in his comfort zone. You have to let him get comfortable so he'll begin take down the walls he's built. Remember he has to do that and all you can do is accept it on his terms. But by at least showing some interest back by accepting these nuggets from time to time you are helping him get more comfortable so he can dismantle the wall.
You know it's going to take time, so the question is how much more time are you willing to give it?
If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa
